People always say “don’t judge” or “don’t compare” when it comes to everything, especially with your offspring. I know EVERYONE is guilty of judging and/or comparing. Everyone does it. Don’t even lie and say you don’ t do it, but you do. I am guilty of it. I do judge but in the privacy of my home or somewhere privately. I don’t judge in public and never ever do I say it directly to the person.
This weekend I came across a situation where a stranger called CB a “troublemaker”. I DO agree that CB is difficult but what 3 year old boy toddler do you know isn’t? He isn’t really talking fully yet and that means he’s not communicating very well. He’s got feelings and because he can’t describe what he’s feeling, he’s going to have tantrums. That’s normal. I don’t let it slide without telling him that it’s wrong to scream/yell/slap nor do I ignore it but I try my best to keep him contained and I can’t watch over him like a hawk, every minute and every second of the day. It’s a work in progress and I know it’s going to be like this for a very long time. People tell me it’s just a phase and I know it, I just hope it’s a fast phase!
Everyone who had kids before I did always told me that the Terrible 3’s are way worse than the Terrible 2’s. Now I know why. I hate having to deal with the obnoxious stares out in public if my child is screaming (for example, like yesterday at Costco) or obnoxious stares from adults, especially elderly people. People just don’t remember what it’s like to be as a child. I wish people could be more understanding and more tolerable but I know that’s out of the question. But you would figure people who have kids would be more understanding but sadly, thus is not the case.
Society sucks ass.
What would you do if you ever came across a situation where a stranger insults your kid in front of you?